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The Costs of Social Media Overuse and How to Practice Moderation

How many times have you walked into a restaurant or a movie theater and noticed that everyone is on their phone? Four friends might be sitting together having lunch, yet they are not really together, preferring to connect with a piece of technology, choosing to interact with an object rather than the people right in […]

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Schema-driven Relationship problems

We often find ourselves repeating the same patterns over and over in relationships, so much so that it can sometimes feel that we’re dating or marrying the same person over and over. This is a common phenomenon, but there is a way to break these patterns, to have fulfilling relationships that reflect the types of […]

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Schemas and Self-Distortions

This video really touched me because it captures a common problem that I regularly see; the way that our schemas and core beliefs radically distort our perceptions of ourselves. While these thoughts may never completely disappear, they don’t need to be so distressing and powerful. By understanding schemas, and learning how to relate to uncomfortable […]

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Adults Need Time-Outs Too

I’m frequently asked whether it’s ever OK to walk away from a fight. The short answer is yes. You should take a break from a heated argument because the type of creative and objective problem solving that makes you a whiz at work shuts down when you feel the strong negative emotions associated with fights. […]

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Ride the Waves with Urge Surfing

How do you tend to respond to a powerful urge? Are there certain experiences that show up more frequently for you? Are there particular experiences that you attempt to avoid? Let’s be proactive by getting curious and mindful of these urges and learn how urge surfing and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help.  What urges […]

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Podcast Interview with Dr. Lev

Dr. Lev discusses relationships, schemas, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and her books on The Marilu Henner show. Dr. Avigail Lev is a licensed clinical psychologist in California  and a certified mediator. She utilizes evidence-based practices, including cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance-based treatments, to treat both couples and individuals struggling with relationship problems, anxiety, trauma, depression, […]

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Schemas and Relationships

According to Jeffrey Young, schemas are core beliefs and stories that we have constructed about ourselves and our relationships in the world. A schema is a deep-rooted cognitive structure or framework that helps us organize information and make sense of the world.

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Interpersonal Schemas

According to Jeffrey Young, the developer of Schema Therapy, a schema is a core belief about oneself and one’s relationships. When a schema gets triggered, it brings up a whole experience, including thoughts,  feelings, memories, sensations, and images connected to the schema. The following are eleven interpersonal schemas including their descriptions and particular feelings that […]

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Values Are The Journey

Values represent and define the kind of person you want to be and what is important to you. One strategy for starting to clarify your values is to imagine witnessing your own funeral

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Welcome Anxiety

We tend to place judgments and labels on certain physiological sensations that we experience.

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