Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
2. I often feel rejected by people.
3. It’s difficult for me to make important decisions on my own.
4. I do things I don't want to do in order to avoid disappointing others.
5. I try to hide my flaws from others.
6. I have the right to break certain rules that shouldn’t apply to me.
7. I make more mistakes than others.
8. I feel like a failure if I am not excelling at most of what I do.
9. I go along with things that I don’t really want to do.
10. I fear getting engulfed or losing myself in relationships.
11. I often feel at fault for problems in my relationships.
12. I often need reassurance from others before making decisions.
13. I often feel alone in my relationships.
14. I feel controlled by others.
15. I rarely get the love, affection, and attention that I need.
16. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
17. I have trouble making my own wants and needs known.
18. I feel a lot of shame about myself.
19. I put other people's needs above my own to avoid feeling selfish.
20. I am good at prioritizing my own needs above others.
21. I have many more excellent qualities than the average person.
22. I feel inadequate in many aspects of my life.
23. I feel inferior to others.
24. I am good at persisting and getting others to give me what I want.
25. It is difficult for me to take “no” for an answer.
26. I shouldn’t have to accept limitations placed on me by others.
27. It’s hard for me to tell what I want in the moment.
28. I worry that people I’m close to will use me or take advantage of me.
29. I can’t rely on others to be there for me consistently.
30. I have difficulty accepting praise.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.