Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I have to protect myself or people will deceive me.
2. I am good at persisting and getting others to give me what I want.
3. I make more mistakes than others.
4. I often feel trapped in relationships.
5. I feel guilty if I make my needs a priority.
6. I tend to set unreasonable deadlines and goals for myself.
7. I can’t count on others to do what they say they will do.
8. I rarely find someone who can truly understand me or empathize with me.
9. It is difficult for me to count and depend on others.
10. I worry that I will be rejected or scapegoated in social groups.
11. I feel unsatisfied and disappointed in myself if I don’t meet my standards.
12. I rarely get my way with others.
13. I have too many faults to be completely accepted.
14. Nobody I desire would want to be with me if they really got to know me.
15. It’s difficult for me to make important decisions on my own.
16. I often feel rejected by people.
17. I feel inferior to others.
18. I don’t fit in well with my circle of friends.
19. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
20. I must be extremely competent in everything I do.
21. Most people break promises and/or lie.
22. I put alot of pressure on myself to excel and succeed.
23. I struggle with standing up for myself in relationships.
24. I am not a priority for others.
25. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
26. I often feel flawed, unattractive, or deficient in some way.
27. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
28. I put other people's needs above my own to avoid feeling selfish.
29. I don’t get as much understanding and support as I need.
30. I feel like a failure if I am not excelling at most of what I do.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.