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Relationship Schema Quiz:

Understanding Patterns and Enhancing Your Relationships

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

Page 1 of 4

1. I must meet my full potential at all times.
2. I often ask for help and feedback from others.
3. I feel inferior to others.
4. There are things wrong with me that I fear others will discover.
5. I get frustrated and angry when people don't see things my way.
6. I often feel flawed, unattractive, or deficient in some way.
7. I often take on a caretaker role in my relationships.
8. I don’t trust the people in my life to be reliably available for me.
9. It’s hard for me to be alone for too long.
10. I can’t count on others to do what they say they will do.
11. It’s difficult for me to make important decisions on my own.
12. I feel guilty if I make my needs a priority.
13. I'm often worrying about people I love pulling away or distancing from me.
14. I often feel rejected by people.
15. I do things I don't want to do in order to avoid disappointing others.
16. I often feel alone in my relationships.
17. I need more nurturing and understanding then others can give me in my relationships.
18. I have trouble making my own wants and needs known.
19. I feel inadequate in many aspects of my life.
20. People in my life don’t make my feelings and needs important.
21. I try to hide my flaws from others.
22. I rarely find someone who can truly understand me or empathize with me.
23. It’s hard for me to tell what I want in the moment.
24. I can’t rely on others to be there for me consistently.
25. I have to protect myself or people will deceive me.
26. I expect nothing less than perfection from myself.
27. I worry that I will be rejected or scapegoated in social groups.
28. I must be extremely competent in everything I do.
29. People are always leaving me.
30. I fear getting engulfed or losing myself in relationships.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.