Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I am good at prioritizing my own needs above others.
2. I feel inferior to others.
3. I often ask for help and feedback from others.
4. I feel unsatisfied and disappointed in myself if I don’t meet my standards.
5. I often disappointment others.
6. I am not able to live up to my full potential.
7. People in my life don’t make my feelings and needs important.
8. I fear getting engulfed or losing myself in relationships.
9. I often feel a sense of panic at the thought of losing my partner.
10. I do what others want in order to avoid retaliation or negative consequences.
11. I get angry when things don't go the way I want them to.
12. I have to protect myself or people will deceive me.
13. I must meet my full potential at all times.
14. There are things wrong with me that I fear others will discover.
15. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
16. I heavily depend on others for help in my daily life.
17. I have difficulty accepting praise.
18. It’s difficult for me to trust my own judgment in difficult situations.
19. I get frustrated and angry when people don't see things my way.
20. I often take on a caretaker role in my relationships.
21. I make more mistakes than others.
22. I fear that others will discover that there's something wrong with me.
23. It’s difficult for me to accomplish daily tasks without help.
24. I lack a sense of community or belonging.
25. I often need reassurance from others before making decisions.
26. I have very high standards and expectations for myself.
27. I often feel unseen or unloved in my relationships.
28. I feel a lot of shame about myself.
29. People give up on me.
30. I don’t fit in well with my circle of friends.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.