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Relationship Schema Quiz:

Understanding Patterns and Enhancing Your Relationships

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I feel guilty if I make my needs a priority.
2. I make more mistakes than others.
3. I must be extremely competent in everything I do.
4. I have to protect myself or people will deceive me.
5. My relationships feel unstable and unpredictable.
6. I put alot of pressure on myself to excel and succeed.
7. I feel inadequate in many aspects of my life.
8. Most people cannot be trusted.
9. I feel very different and separated from others.
10. I lack a sense of community or belonging.
11. It’s hard for me to put my own needs first.
12. I get angry when things don't go the way I want them to.
13. I fear getting engulfed or losing myself in relationships.
14. I often feel unseen or unloved in my relationships.
15. I need to be careful and guarded with people and what I share with them.
16. I expect nothing less than perfection from myself.
17. I fear that others will discover that there's something wrong with me.
18. I worry whether people I'm close to are being completely honest with me.
19. I put other people's needs above my own to avoid feeling selfish.
20. I fear that others will use my flaws and weaknesses against me.
21. I shouldn’t have to accept limitations placed on me by others.
22. I feel controlled by others.
23. It’s difficult for me to spend time away from my partner.
24. I fear that if I don’t meet people’s needs that they will punish me or retaliate against me.
25. I fear that others will mislead or manipulate me.
26. I go along with things that I don’t really want to do.
27. I am fearful that people will betray me or hurt me.
28. People give up on me.
29. I often feel rejected by people.
30. I don’t feel worthy of love and acceptance.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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