Mindful Dating in the Digital Age
If dating feels like the same cycle on repeat, this group is for you.
A schema awareness group for singles who are done repeating the same patterns. Learn why you choose who you choose, break painful cycles, and build the relationship skills that lead to genuine connection — in a supportive group of people doing the same work. In-person and online.
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IS THIS YOU?
You Keep Ending Up in the Same Place
You swipe, you match, you go on dates — but it always ends the same way. You pick the wrong people. You lose yourself trying to make it work. You pull away the moment things get real. Or you stay too long with someone who was never right.
If any of this sounds familiar, it's not because you're broken — it's because you have schemas and attachment patterns running the show. This group helps you see them, name them, and finally break the cycle.
THE APPROACH
What Are Schemas — And Why Do They Matter for Dating?
Schemas are deep-seated patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that develop early in life — often from unmet emotional needs in childhood. They operate beneath your awareness and shape who you're attracted to, how you behave in relationships, and why certain dynamics keep repeating.
Schema chemistry is what happens when your schemas lock into someone else's — creating that intense "spark" that feels like connection but is actually pattern recognition. The person who feels most familiar often activates your deepest wounds. Understanding this is the first step to breaking the cycle.
We also work with attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, disorganized — and how they interact with your schemas to create the push-pull dynamics that keep you stuck. When you understand both your schemas and your attachment style, you can finally stop repeating and start choosing.
Identify Your Patterns
Take an interpersonal schemas questionnaire and discover the specific patterns driving your dating behavior.
Understand Your Triggers
Learn why certain people activate you, why you lose yourself, and why you keep choosing the same type.
Practice New Responses
Replace automatic schema-driven reactions with intentional, values-based choices in real time.
Get Real Feedback
Receive honest, supportive feedback from group members about your relational patterns — something you can't get alone.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
Concrete Skills for Healthier Relationships
THE FORMAT
How the Group Works
This is both a skills-based group and a process group. Each 90-minute session combines structured learning with real-time interpersonal practice. You'll be asked to apply what you learn between sessions and report back.
Schema Assessment
Complete an interpersonal schemas questionnaire to identify your core patterns before the group begins.
Weekly Sessions
90-minute sessions combining psychoeducation, experiential exercises, group discussion, and direct feedback.
Practice Between Sessions
Apply new skills in your actual dating life. Monitor your behaviors, track your triggers, and report back to the group.
Integration & Completion
By week 12, you'll have a clear map of your schemas, a toolkit of new responses, and a community that held you accountable.
WHO THIS IS FOR
This Group Is Right for You If...
WHY THIS GROUP
Not Dating Coaching. Not Talk Therapy. Something Different.
Typical Dating Advice
- Surface-level tips and tricks
- Focus on "strategy" and games
- No understanding of why you repeat patterns
- One-size-fits-all approach
- No accountability or feedback
Mindful Dating Group
- Deep schema-level pattern recognition
- Focus on authentic connection and values
- Understand the root of your dating behavior
- Personalized to your specific schemas
- Weekly practice, feedback, and accountability
GROUP DETAILS
Practical Information
Duration
12 weeks
New containers launch quarterly
Session Length
90 minutes
Weekly, same day and time
In-Person Size
8–10 members
Intimate, high-feedback setting
Online Size
12–28 members
Flexible based on your preferences
Format
In-Person & Online
Full participation either way
QUESTIONS
Frequently Asked Questions
Who is this group for?
This group is for singles who are tired of repeating the same dating patterns and want to approach relationships with more awareness and intention. Whether you're navigating online dating, recovering from a breakup, or struggling to build authentic connections, this group is designed for you.
What is schema therapy and how does it apply to dating?
Schemas are deep-seated patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that develop early in life. In dating, they show up as repeated patterns — choosing unavailable partners, people-pleasing, pushing people away, or tolerating mistreatment. Schema-awareness helps you recognize these patterns and make different choices.
How is this different from regular dating coaching?
Unlike dating coaching that focuses on surface-level strategies, our group addresses the underlying psychological patterns that drive your dating behavior. You'll gain deep self-awareness, receive feedback from peers, and practice new relational skills in a safe therapeutic environment.
How long is the group and what is the format?
The group runs in 12-week containers. Each 90-minute session combines psychoeducation, experiential exercises, group process, and weekly behavioral assignments. In-person groups are 8–10 members; online groups range from 12–28 depending on your preferences. It's both a skills group and a process group — you learn new tools and practice them with real-time feedback.
Is this group available online?
Yes. The group is available both in-person and online via secure video. Online members participate fully in all exercises, discussions, and feedback — it's not a passive experience.
What if I'm not currently dating?
You don't need to be actively dating to benefit. Many members join during a break from dating to understand their patterns before re-entering the dating world. The skills you learn apply to all relationships.
Ready to Date Differently?
Spots are limited. In-person groups hold 8–10 members; online groups range from 12–28 depending on your preferences. Join the waitlist to be notified when the next group launches.
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