Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I do what others want in order to avoid retaliation or negative consequences.
2. I fear that others will mislead or manipulate me.
3. I often feel that my accomplishments are not good enough and notice the ways I could have done better.
4. I often ask for help and feedback from others.
5. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
6. I always know what I want and how to get it.
7. I don’t feel worthy of love and acceptance.
8. I worry whether people I'm close to are being completely honest with me.
9. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
10. I am fearful that people will betray me or hurt me.
11. I feel unsatisfied and disappointed in myself if I don’t meet my standards.
12. It is difficult for me to count and depend on others.
13. I struggle with standing up for myself in relationships.
14. I shouldn’t have to accept limitations placed on me by others.
15. It seems like others have achieved more than I have.
16. I tend to feel excluded in social situations.
17. I often feel alone in my relationships.
18. My relationships feel unstable and unpredictable.
19. I often feel trapped in relationships.
20. I often feel like an outsider.
21. I fear that others will discover that there's something wrong with me.
22. I often agree to do things that I later realize I did not want to do.
23. People are always leaving me.
24. I have the right to break certain rules that shouldn’t apply to me.
25. I'm not good enough.
26. I feel inferior to others.
27. I don’t trust the people in my life to be reliably available for me.
28. Nobody I desire would want to be with me if they really got to know me.
29. I am not able to live up to my full potential.
30. I tend to set unreasonable deadlines and goals for myself.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.