Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I always know what I want and how to get it.
2. It’s hard for me to be alone for too long.
3. I feel like a failure if I am not excelling at most of what I do.
4. I'm not good enough.
5. I lack a sense of community or belonging.
6. I go along with things that I don’t really want to do.
7. It is difficult for me to count and depend on others.
8. I fear that if I don’t meet people’s needs that they will punish me or retaliate against me.
9. I often feel like an outsider.
10. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
11. I have to protect myself or people will deceive me.
12. I often feel trapped in relationships.
13. It seems like others have achieved more than I have.
14. I get frustrated and angry when people don't see things my way.
15. I heavily depend on others for help in my daily life.
16. I often feel alone in my relationships.
17. I am good at prioritizing my own needs above others.
18. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
19. I'm often worrying about people I love pulling away or distancing from me.
20. I rarely find someone who can truly understand me or empathize with me.
21. I often disappointment others.
22. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
23. I am not a priority for others.
24. I rarely get my way with others.
25. I often feel unseen or unloved in my relationships.
26. I struggle with standing up for myself in relationships.
27. If I don’t do what others want me to do then I might lose them.
28. Other people’s needs are more important than mine.
29. I am not able to live up to my full potential.
30. I fear that others will mislead or manipulate me.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.