Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. It’s difficult for me to accomplish daily tasks without help.
2. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
3. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
4. I make more mistakes than others.
5. It is difficult for me to take “no” for an answer.
6. It’s difficult for me to trust my own judgment in difficult situations.
7. It’s difficult for me to spend time away from my partner.
8. I have too many faults to be completely accepted.
9. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
10. I am highly critical of myself when I make mistakes.
11. I struggle with standing up for myself in relationships.
12. I have very high standards and expectations for myself.
13. I often need reassurance from others before making decisions.
14. People in my life don’t make my feelings and needs important.
15. If I don’t do what others want me to do then I might lose them.
16. I do things I don't want to do in order to avoid disappointing others.
17. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
18. I can’t handle my problems on my own.
19. It’s difficult for me to make important decisions on my own.
20. I have trouble making my own wants and needs known.
21. I often take on a caretaker role in my relationships.
22. I often agree to do things that I later realize I did not want to do.
23. I don’t get as much understanding and support as I need.
24. I fear that if I don’t meet people’s needs that they will punish me or retaliate against me.
25. I rarely find someone who can truly understand me or empathize with me.
26. I don’t trust the people in my life to be reliably available for me.
27. I feel like a failure if I am not excelling at most of what I do.
28. I worry whether people I'm close to are being completely honest with me.
29. I'm often worrying about people I love pulling away or distancing from me.
30. I frequently feel left out of groups.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.