Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. It’s hard for me to tell what I want in the moment.
2. I feel controlled by others.
3. I often take on a caretaker role in my relationships.
4. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
5. People are always leaving me.
6. I often feel a sense of panic at the thought of losing my partner.
7. I get frustrated and angry when people don't see things my way.
8. I try to hide my flaws from others.
9. I'm not good enough.
10. I do things I don't want to do in order to avoid disappointing others.
11. I often worry that others may judge me or misinterpret me.
12. I have many more excellent qualities than the average person.
13. I don’t feel worthy of love and acceptance.
14. No one is able to provide me with the emotional support and care that I need.
15. It’s difficult for me to spend time away from my partner.
16. Most people cannot be trusted.
17. I do what others want in order to avoid retaliation or negative consequences.
18. It’s difficult for me to trust my own judgment in difficult situations.
19. I must meet my full potential at all times.
20. I tend to feel excluded in social situations.
21. It’s hard for me to put my own needs first.
22. It’s difficult for me to accomplish daily tasks without help.
23. I'm often worrying about people I love pulling away or distancing from me.
24. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
25. I have the right to break certain rules that shouldn’t apply to me.
26. I heavily depend on others for help in my daily life.
27. I lack a sense of community or belonging.
28. I have very high standards and expectations for myself.
29. I go along with things that I don’t really want to do.
30. I often ask for help and feedback from others.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.