Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. People in my life don’t make my feelings and needs important.
2. I must meet my full potential at all times.
3. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
4. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
5. I feel like a failure if I am not excelling at most of what I do.
6. I often feel alone in my relationships.
7. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
8. I worry whether people I'm close to are being completely honest with me.
9. I have the right to break certain rules that shouldn’t apply to me.
10. I put alot of pressure on myself to excel and succeed.
11. I rarely get the love, affection, and attention that I need.
12. It is difficult for me to count and depend on others.
13. I feel very different and separated from others.
14. I put other people's needs above my own to avoid feeling selfish.
15. It’s difficult for me to trust my own judgment in difficult situations.
16. I make more mistakes than others.
17. I try to hide my flaws from others.
18. I can’t handle my problems on my own.
19. I often feel unseen or unloved in my relationships.
20. I'm not good enough.
21. I can’t count on others to do what they say they will do.
22. I need to be careful and guarded with people and what I share with them.
23. I fear getting engulfed or losing myself in relationships.
24. I have to protect myself or people will deceive me.
25. I have many more excellent qualities than the average person.
26. I shouldn’t have to accept limitations placed on me by others.
27. I always know what I want and how to get it.
28. I need more nurturing and understanding then others can give me in my relationships.
29. People give up on me.
30. I often feel at fault for problems in my relationships.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.