Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I often need reassurance from others before making decisions.
2. I do what others want in order to avoid retaliation or negative consequences.
3. I often feel trapped in relationships.
4. I often feel like an outsider.
5. I don’t make good decisions.
6. I get angry when things don't go the way I want them to.
7. I have many more excellent qualities than the average person.
8. I try to hide my flaws from others.
9. I often feel a sense of panic at the thought of losing my partner.
10. I fear that others will discover that there's something wrong with me.
11. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
12. I'm often worrying about people I love pulling away or distancing from me.
13. I often feel at fault for problems in my relationships.
14. I go along with things that I don’t really want to do.
15. I worry that people I’m close to will use me or take advantage of me.
16. I am fearful that people will betray me or hurt me.
17. I tend to feel excluded in social situations.
18. It’s difficult for me to trust my own judgment in difficult situations.
19. I don’t feel worthy of love and acceptance.
20. I feel disconnected and alienated from others in social situations.
21. My relationships feel unstable and unpredictable.
22. I often feel that my accomplishments are not good enough and notice the ways I could have done better.
23. It is difficult for me to count and depend on others.
24. I often feel alone in my relationships.
25. I feel inferior to others.
26. I am good at persisting and getting others to give me what I want.
27. I feel a lot of shame about myself.
28. I fear that others will mislead or manipulate me.
29. I don’t trust the people in my life to be reliably available for me.
30. If others really knew me, they wouldn’t accept me.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.