Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I rarely get the love, affection, and attention that I need.
2. I fear that others will mislead or manipulate me.
3. No one is able to provide me with the emotional support and care that I need.
4. I often feel that my accomplishments are not good enough and notice the ways I could have done better.
5. I am fearful that people will betray me or hurt me.
6. Other people’s needs are more important than mine.
7. I feel controlled by others.
8. My relationships feel unstable and unpredictable.
9. I often feel alone in my relationships.
10. I often feel unseen or unloved in my relationships.
11. I get frustrated and angry when people don't see things my way.
12. I often feel trapped in relationships.
13. If I don’t do what others want me to do then I might lose them.
14. People in my life don’t make my feelings and needs important.
15. I must meet my full potential at all times.
16. If others really knew me, they wouldn’t accept me.
17. I don’t get as much understanding and support as I need.
18. I'm not good enough.
19. I often feel like an outsider.
20. It’s difficult for me to trust my own judgment in difficult situations.
21. I have difficulty accepting praise.
22. I rarely find someone who can truly understand me or empathize with me.
23. It seems like others have achieved more than I have.
24. Nobody I desire would want to be with me if they really got to know me.
25. Most people break promises and/or lie.
26. I often agree to do things that I later realize I did not want to do.
27. Most people cannot be trusted.
28. People are always leaving me.
29. I lack a sense of community or belonging.
30. I'm often worrying about people I love pulling away or distancing from me.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.