Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

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1. I don’t trust the people in my life to be reliably available for me.
2. I shouldn’t have to accept limitations placed on me by others.
3. I often worry that others may judge me or misinterpret me.
4. I heavily depend on others for help in my daily life.
5. It’s difficult for me to spend time away from my partner.
6. I rarely get the love, affection, and attention that I need.
7. If others really knew me, they wouldn’t accept me.
8. I can’t handle my problems on my own.
9. I must meet my full potential at all times.
10. No one is able to provide me with the emotional support and care that I need.
11. People in my life don’t make my feelings and needs important.
12. I often feel a sense of panic at the thought of losing my partner.
13. I feel a lot of shame about myself.
14. It is difficult for me to count and depend on others.
15. I am highly critical of myself when I make mistakes.
16. I don’t make good decisions.
17. I feel very different and separated from others.
18. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
19. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
20. I often feel rejected by people.
21. I fear that others will mislead or manipulate me.
22. It’s difficult for me to fit in when I'm in social situations.
23. I lack a sense of community or belonging.
24. I fear that if I don’t meet people’s needs that they will punish me or retaliate against me.
25. I am not a priority for others.
26. I do what others want in order to avoid retaliation or negative consequences.
27. It’s difficult for me to accomplish daily tasks without help.
28. I always know what I want and how to get it.
29. People are always leaving me.
30. I worry whether people I'm close to are being completely honest with me.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.