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Relationship Schemas Quiz

The following questionnaire will help you determine which schemas are most relevant for you in relationships.

Schemas are core beliefs or stories that we have developed about ourselves and others in relationships. When we are unware of these stories we are more likely to engage in behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophecy and reinforce these beliefs. Your responses can provide you with insight into your relationship patterns and dynamics as well as information that will help you communicate effectively and have more well-rounded relationships.

Note: This questionnaire is for informational purposes only and is not intended to function as a psychological assessment or a clinical diagnosis. If you have any questions about your results, please speak with a qualified health professional. This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.

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Instructions: 

For each statement, choose the answer that best describes you. At the end of the questionnaire you will receive your results for each schema and how it may be impacting your relationships.

This questionnaire has 110 questions on 4 pages.

 

Page 1 of 4

1. It’s hard for me to tell what I want in the moment.
2. If I don’t do what others want me to do then I might lose them.
3. It’s hard for me to be alone for too long.
4. I am good at understanding people and helping others.
5. People are always leaving me.
6. I often feel unseen or unloved in my relationships.
7. I always know what I want and how to get it.
8. I feel inadequate in many aspects of my life.
9. It’s difficult for me to spend time away from my partner.
10. I am highly critical of myself when I make mistakes.
11. I have many more excellent qualities than the average person.
12. It’s difficult for me to accomplish daily tasks without help.
13. I often feel at fault for problems in my relationships.
14. I have difficulty accepting praise.
15. I am not a priority for others.
16. I can’t handle my problems on my own.
17. I need assistance from certain people in order to get things done.
18. I don’t fit in well with my circle of friends.
19. I worry that I will be rejected or scapegoated in social groups.
20. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
21. I get frustrated when I don’t get what I want.
22. It’s difficult for me to make important decisions on my own.
23. I often agree to do things that I later realize I did not want to do.
24. I worry that people I’m close to will use me or take advantage of me.
25. I put alot of pressure on myself to excel and succeed.
26. I worry whether people I'm close to are being completely honest with me.
27. I don’t make good decisions.
28. Other people’s needs are more important than mine.
29. I'm not good enough.
30. I need to be careful and guarded with people and what I share with them.

 

This quiz is for self-reflection and not a diagnostic tool. It’s essential to consult with a mental health professional for a comprehensive assessment and appropriate support.